Your average joe Indonesian. Take it all with a grain of salt. I saw expat women only with gigolos like those in bali just for fun, but for for normal relationship?! A bit of bitterness maybe? At least I never seen any bule like this. All of this is happening in Bali! I dropped out from College and started working at sea as a Fisherman on a Tuna Fishing Vessel in Uruguay, I've been busting my ass off just to prove myself worthy of a man to the only woman I loved for more than 4 years.
I was so touched by your story, but I can see you are a strong manI'm sure you will meet the right women that deserves you. Some people need to understand that in this lifewhenever you go even in wealthy and wester countriesyou will find good guys as well as bad guys and same thing for girls. I myself was with an Indonesian guy who was younger than me by 2 yearswe were planning to get married in the future even his is from a poor family and I'm the oppositebut I didn't care because I really loved him so much and wanted to share my life with him and I supported him very in his humble work to support his needy familybut unfortanetly he started being so cold to me, and started having some problems in our thinking, dating balinese girl, so we ended our relationship.
But I still like Indonesian peopleand if I met in the future with a good Indonesian guy who can really suitI wouldn't say no. Alex is a woman, bitter and coward probably a bule hunter. If you say that, I don't want to accept your accusation. If you think Indonesian guys are ugly and unfaithful. I'm a Chinese-Indonesian-Arab guy very offended with your statement. So, please stop stereotyping Indonesian people!
Sounds like you got pretty burnt Alex. I hope you can find true love as I have, either from Indonesia or around the world. Take care of that little heart of yours. Good on ya Simone finding love here. Seems only recent in Bali but I don't really pay attention to them. As soon as they hear me speak fluent Indonesian to them they back off And then we all get on with our lives.
I applaud your social observation skill. I might be one of the few that's on the opposite centrum of that view as my wife and I discuss about it, we manage our financial together, since both of us really want what's best for our only baby boy, we need to be opened up about everything. My spouse and I love to learn from each other, especially from our silly mistakes, haha. Makasih mas You can read more of my insights at my blog.
Especially this one below, where I talk about the things I have noticed Indonesians find weird about foreigners. You share this from your heart.
This is not only observation but a walking to remember. I used to have a long relationship with an Ausie girl. Long-distance made it impossible to work. Success with your love. Even though looking for job in Indonesia is a bit hard we as men always struggle to treat women good as well as we can, that's why a lot of Indonesian men doing some small business such as "buka warung", online shop, and still a lot of options to make money.
Came to this page by accident, so excuse the anonymity and hopefully my two cents will shed light regardless. Firstly, let me state that as a multiracial Indonesian I have had the pleasure, or displeasure depending on which bitter ex you ask, of dating females from almost all ethnicities, both from Indonesia, Asia, and the West.
Nothing to be proud of, to be sure, and its mention is just to verify a life lived. The fact of the matter is that the social circles an expatriate female gets into in Indonesia are still, for the most part, a closed circuit - the reasons that bring them to interact with Indonesian males in the country will fall into the stereotypical personal and or professional bubbles, and it is from these bubbles that their assessments of males are derived, and vice versa.
The reality is that there are more Indonesian men outside this enclosure but they either lack competency to engage or have been warned by society of the stereotypical expatriate females that inhabit it, as have the females of its stereotypical Indonesian males The simple way out of this, in order to attain decent interpersonal relationships is to break away from the mold - if one enters Indonesian society with the mindset of a tourist, be it a holiday, student or professional iteration of that title, then one will enact the causality of attracting those whose purpose best dating chat apps to interact with tourists, dating balinese girl.
Finding real people outside so-called tourist trap locales is a good start - if one is religious, local places of worship is a simple and accessible foot in the right door. If one is less religious, then shopping malls and their international franchised coffee hangouts are a solid alternative.
Avoid places notorious for their expatriate community, such as South Jakarta and Kemang in the capital and every tourist hole in the archipelago and you should be fine. Preference in male ethnicity also do play a role, as some are less welcoming than others, and unfortunately in Asia dark skinned females are still dating balinese girl attractive than their lighter counterpart - there is a reason whitening cream sells in the span of Asia, from India to Japan.
There are always exceptions, and a good dose of Asian sensibility and courtesy will always return in kind. All the best and good luck.
The moment I knew he was married, I kept my distance. Although he has not met his wife for more than a year, I still respect the fact that he is married.
But a few days later, we got closer. Even up till now when I'm back in my own country, we still keep in touch and his brother who knew about us, dating balinese girl, asked him to ask my hand for marriage. Though I'm happy, deep down, I don't want to be the other woman. He is now saving for us though the currency difference is alot, he is really working hard. But I always encourage him to go back to his wife.
But all he ever did was just calling his son and going back to his friend's house to meet his son. He never wanna meet his wife at all. I know the reasons but still, to me, when there's hope, there's still a chance to make it up. I'm not hoping for anything. But if ever I'm fated to be his wife, then I will be. And I hope to move closer to him even if it means sacrificing my good life here. Honestly, I hate myself for falling in love with someone else husband.
All these years, I manage to turn down 4 married man who wants to know me. I'm in love with 1? I can't believe I did this to myself. I perfect match dating app Indonesian guy friends living in many places and they are mostly very very understanding, caring and hard-working people. So, do not stereotype all Indonesian guy if 1 of them has made you broke your trust. Out of 10, maybe 3 will be the nicest.
Get what I mean? Indonesia culture is indeed quite sexist, but trust me, "high quality" Indonesian men respect women. The last point is very misleading and, to be honest, disgusting, dating balinese girl. You don't "keep your man's pride intact" that way. Indonesian men's pride isn't that cheap. I found that the relationship between western women and Indonesian men is rarely to happen compared to white men into Indo women.
Even in Indonesian media it is still a shocking news, have you heard the latest news about a British woman who were married to a Padang guy that trending the social media and mainstream media it is the truly evidence of it. Its indicates that the case is lack of media exposure. Generally speaking, it is such an honor and a pride and joy having a western woman as a wife for Indonesian man but the problem is society often dictates the relationship especially when it comes to faith, virginity, and money and often ended up into negative sentiment.
I really appreciated western women view over Indonesian men like you did because it really helpful to help others who experience the same thing. Congrats for your marriage with Indonesian man I read your happiness and success over it through your brilliant piece like this one. I am also interested in marrying a nice and understanding caucasian woman. Can i get contact of you Simone? Would you pls contact me, Simone.?
I'm divorced Indonesian man, looking for serious relationship dating balinese girl expatriate woman. I wish you can help please to find mor connect me toe expat woman live in jakarta.
I did have relationship with local many times but always ends up badly. Thank you and apologize to bother you. I am nice caring an Drspectfull person. My email tantohendriks gmail.
Hello, i've just found your article. Our men mostly dealing with their heart. That is why we so faithfully to woman. But nowadays I notice most young Indonesian people, woman and man are more like Western, especially those living in big cities like Jakarta, Surabaya. I can tell this cause I've been living in some cities in the past few years. You know, I find this article when I am contemplating. Even when I write this, I feel sad because my girlfriend is a big individualist after she got back here, after working in Boston since What I notice after her return is that she became pluralist, and that is good, but also she is not able too feel ones feeling.
When u said to understand each other,i remember that she said people in Boston like to gossip everyday nonstop. That made her become a quiet and no emphaty to to others.
Even to her love. I don't know the way to lead her to good way. She is getting farther from me
Hahaha interesting article thibaud You sound like to become more and more Indonesian The Javanese are like the English of the UK, the administrators if you like, with a strictly delineated class system with those born to rule at the top living a refined life of culture and gentle harmony, an aspiring middle class who want a nice civil service job and and the forelocking-tugging peasants at the bottom.
The Sundanese on the other hand are like the Irish, religiously devout certainly but more relaxed and easygoing, cheerful good-natured people but lazy as sin, enjoying life in their happy contented kampungs, making music and babies as the notion suits them. The Bataks don't relate particularly to any UK region but could be compared, without offence, to the Jews. Hard-working, clever people from a religious minority who know they can only succeed through education and getting on in business or the law, spending days spent bent over in a rice field up to their armpits in mud doesn't appeal to them so much.
As regards female beauty I agree that the Madonese take the cup, but they are high-maintenance show ponies and their appeal wears off quickly enough.
The Sundanese girls on the other hand tick all the boxes, pretty, intelligent, vivacious with a great sense of humour they also know how to deal with lazy men with wandering eyes they run the household and can turn a blind eye when they have to so they suit me down to the ground.
Manado chicks make great mistresses or hookers many more Sundanese working in brothel and karaoke but it would be a mistake to marry one, they are almost like Sundanese but the Manado girls are more presentable in front of a foreign crowd. Either one is only good for having fun not marriage material. True in my experience that javanese are not that materialistic. But they are always running away from small problems which are easy to solve by just talking about them.
They ignore them and it doesnt matter how big it becomes. Very stupid and the picture from outside if more important then solving isuues.
Even if they dont have any money and have children that depends on the expats father support. Better a sundanese, eventhough more money orientated, but they express themselves and u know what you are dealing with. Javanese can hide every problem inside and act in front of you that all things are fine, while at your back will gosiip to her friends about you.
Well, it is hypocritical, fake, selfish and stupid. I am a Chinese Indonesian. I am from Bandung, so I know the Sundanese very well. I think it is true that the Sundanese are materialistic. It is hard to approach a Sundanese if you are not rich.
A pretty Sundanese girl or a Chinese Indonesian girl that lives in Bandung , will seek to have a relationship with a rich man. They don't care about age difference. They are proud if they can have a rich man as a boyfriend, although the rich man is much older than them.
But as we have read above, it depends on the education background of the girl. More educated girl will think more clearly, and not just thinking about money they will be more rational if it is about money. Sundanese girl are lazy. My friends in Bandung Chinese Indonesian were told by their moms,"Look for a wealthy man as your husband, so you don't have to work in your whole life. They just want to become a wealthy-man's wife, so they don't have to work.
Javanese girl are more dilligent. She is quite dilligent and have a good career, but very lazy at home don't want to do house-works. But at least, she can make money.
She also dilligent in academic matters. So I give her a chance to study Master Degree I pay her tuition fee. I thought cirebon is still in west java , which is she's sundanese.. Javanese is more like center java or east java for your information.. We batak woman naturally born independent, strong cause our culture and natur thought me, since we born we must strong, even we give birth, we must strong in physical and other way. I was 'iseng' lol. Sorry idk how to say it in english.
When i search keyword javanese girl. Your article was on the top. So i was reading it. Its interesting to read your opinion about the javanese girl and others. I'm happy to hear you said malang because i'm from malang lol. I knew javanese girl best. Because i'm a javanese. Not all of javanese is quiet. Some can be very noisy.
Basically we like talking and socialization Though.. I think its not just javanese. All the girls around the world like talking lol Javanese girl is 'nrimo' but they usually stingy. Not all of them. After all its depend on person. Doesn't matter about ethnic or ras. I should say, not all of them was like you've said. It all depends on the background education, which area they live,religion, they own character, etc. Sundanese could be also "nrimo".. Hello, i agree about your opinion,, i am javanesse used to live in Bogor West Java, most of them are sundanese,, i saw many young girl dating old rich man there,, i just shocked n i asked to my sudanese friend,, she said some of her friend dating old rich man, n that girl proud of it, it seems they can attract wealthy guy..
Sundanese ethnic is more better or beautiful than another ethinc in Indonesia then Minahasan is the best , but for me javanese is good looking to all.. I think the most beautiful girl in indonesia is dayaknese they are base in kalimantan and they are humble too.
Yeah I like this article.. I'm chinese born Indonesian and I've been studied abroad for at least 5 years. When I coming back to Indonesia. As an Indonesian I didn't realize it since I've grown up in such situation until I come back for other country. But for many foreigners, it will be easily noticeable. I have chinese born Indonesian as my girlfriend she is from Borneo , she has a lot of different characters compare to my previous girlfriend chinese born Indonesian who lived in west java, so I can consider her to have a solid sundanese culture.
My borneo girlfriend has stronger will and independent compare to my sundanese girlfriend. Now, I have another co-worker from Sulawesi. She is not my girlfriend but we accidentally close due to some reason work related , she is half chinese and half bataknese, and guess what? Our work-relationship is like a cat and a dog although nowadays cat and dog can be friend , even for a small things she will mad.
But beside that character, actually bataknese girl is care and loving among sundanese, borneo, and bataknese , but maybe because their ancestors used to live in the mountain so they need to shout each other when they are talk.
Finally, background education have a big part of their ability to tolerate other person. They are very polite and good working habits.
Until today, I had never dared writing an article about ethnicity in Indonesia. I didn't want to appear racist and also because my knowledge on the subject is limited. Be aware that I am basing this whole piece on personal experience only. This is not a scientific paper, it's just entertainment. You may have a completely different opinion and I would love to hear it especially if you are an Indonesian reader.
Please just write a comment below. Both have distinct traditions, languages, cultures and cuisines. In Jakarta, most of the girls you meet will be either Javanese or Sundanese. Most expats don't really care about that and they consider it's pretty much all the same.
On the contrary, Indonesians like to point at the differences between the people of each provinces. They will give specific traits to some ethnicities, negative or positive, and based on these stereotypes they might deem that some mixed "race" couples are not desirable.
For instance, a persistent myth among Indonesians is that a couple between a Javanese men and a Sundanese women cannot work well. For better understanding, let's review what are the stereotypes about the three main Indonesian ethnical groups:. Sundanese Model Melli Voo. Sundanese are considered soft and easy-going. It is said that due to their welcoming nature, the penetration of Islam among them was faster and easier compared to the Javanese.
For this reason, they are overall more religious compared to the Javanese. Some will say that they lack ambition and they are not willing to live far from their home. One of the consequences is that there are less of them in top jobs and positions. Among ministers or ex-presidents of Indonesia, very few were Sundanese. Sundanese girls are often called the most beautiful women in Indonesia, mainly because of their lighter skin color.
If you date a Sundanese, you might experience a surge in your monthly expenses. Sundanese girls love to spend on clothes, cellphones, laptops, shoes, beauty products and entertainment. Such gifts are expected as a part of the relationship and it is sometimes hard to know how sincere the love is. Sundanese girls are sometimes criticized for behaving like divas:
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